748 (Part 2/10) of Self-Love, Self-Esteem, Self-Discipline, Sustainability issues

This is in continuation of our blogpost No. 747 [Click here if you wish to go to 747], which dealt with . Part 1/10 of Self-Love. There, we have expressed a view that self-love need not extend to sologamy or narcissism. We have also felt that self-love need not necessarily have something to do with platonic love towards others (love), sexual love towards others (lust or biological or physiological love).

When we see the above photograph of a peacock in its full glory (photo courtesy independenceks.gov., the more acceptable scientific view which we may get to our mind is that, male peacocks show themselves on and off, to attract the other sex for love and partnership.

Even outside the physiological or sexual behaviors, one may get an impression that a person may love him-her-self, try to enlarge his-her image than to "larger-than-life size" to win appreciation of others. Humans seem to continuously need boosts to their own impressions of self-esteem, by means of flatteries and praise-s from others.

WHY SELF-LOVE IS BECOMING A NECESSITY IN THIS 21ST CENTURY?

Self-love need not necessarily be for those who have wads of greenbacks to spend, lot of time to pass on ceremonies and celebrations on functions like self-marriages, but it will be more of a timely helping tool for those suffering from deprivation both in rural and urban areas, not only in developing countries like India, but even those so called Great Prosperous World of Europe and United States.

In Hindi language, we have an idiom called "time-pass-pallies" or "time-pass-baThAnIs". In Telugu language we have its equivalent: 'kAla kshEpam baThAnis'. English : Chickpeas or peanuts to bide time away. Self-love is not for those 'kAla kshEpam baThAni' dandies. It is very much for those who work 24 x 7 x 365. It is very much for those who toil as blue collared workers and equally for those who do some desk or computer jobs.

Here is a link to a news report in Asian Age, dated 7th May 2016, and in Deccan Chronicle dated 9th May 2016, titled 'The hidden cost of young urban living' by Nishtha Kanal. Click to go to Asian Age, Nishtha Kanal's article. You can also find this at DC. .

This particular article deals with 'urban poverty' in Indian Cities, but the circumstances, environments, and situations in other cities of the world may not be much different (not literally, but in their essence), hence the article is worth examining on an international plane. Though the article gives examples of feminine workers, staying alone in Cities, the settings can equally apply even to masculine workers.

We shall take up one small sample of this article for the limited purpose of our 'SELF-LOVE NEED ANALYSES'.

"...The last two days saw the term “urban poverty” heavily trending on social media following an article that went viral on the subject. According to that piece, the urban poor mostly constitute of 20-something young professionals, grappling with their newfound freedom in a big city, while trying hard to keep up appearances and cutting corners on things as basic as two square meals a day. “Poverty” seems an interesting term to define a condition of living beyond one’s means. According to the National Sample Survey Organisation data available for 2011-12, those who earn more than Rs 30,000 a month, fall in the top one percent of the Indian population, as far as earnings go. For people belonging to the top one per cent of the nation’s population, it’s interesting that these young professionals are actually left scourging for spare change towards the end of the month, after the better half of it was spent on perhaps a cuppa in Starbucks or a pair of shoes that were too hard to resist. ..."

ybrao-a-donkey's humble comments. वैबीराव एक गधे के विनम्र राय . వైబీరావ్ గాడిద వినమ్ర వాణి. You have every right to differ with me. I respect your right. आपको मेरे मत से भिन्न राय रखने के संपूर्ण हक है। मै उस अधिकार को परिपूर्ण रूप से गौरव देता हुँ. మీకు, మీ భిన్నమైన అభిప్రాయాన్ని కలిగిఉండే సంపూర్ణ హక్కు ఉంది. దానిని ఎంతో నేను గౌరవిస్తాను. However, pl. examine this donkey's views also. परन्तु एस गधे के दृष्टिकोण को भी अनुशीलन कीजिये. కానీ ఈ గాడిద దృష్టికోణాన్ని కూడ ఓర చూపుతో కంటజూడుమీ, క్రీగంట జూడమీ.

From 2011-12 to 2016-17, the prices have doubled. Salaries of the above class of Rs. 30,000 per month (approx. $500 per month) too might have gone up by 50% i.e. to Rs. 45,000 per month (approx. $750 per month). In other words, there is a fall in real-income, owing to price-rise. These people are said to be falling in top 1% of population. What I view is: 80% of this 1% creamy layer may regard themselves as above ordinary poor of India who constitute the 99% category. Actually, these persons too have to categorise themselves as those belonging to the bottom 99%, thus making the total population eking out precarious-existence-survival-subsistence, to 99.8%. Either this .8% class should educate itself, or some frank NGO should candidly educate them.

The question here is, when a single person finds it hard to make both ends meet in the second fortnight of the salary month, how will they, when they get wedded, manage their families with children? If a family of 4 (2 adults and 2 children) has to go to a Multiplex, it may cost about Rs. 2,000/-. A set of 4 persons cannot survive with an income which is barely enough for one person! That means, a person has to LOVE HIM-HERSELF and should not CREATE FAMILIES, if he-she are not to fall in a debt trap. Like a double-engined train, probably, a double-engined family may fare better, but such double engines are not available for everybody. Hence, the imperative for the SELF-LOVE and SINGLE PERSON FAMILIES.

Subject to corrections and deletions. To continue. सशेष. ఇంకా ఉంది.